Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Capture your grief day 21

Relationship 
Out of privacy for our relationship and Ben's wishes (I may be public about things, but that doesn't mean he is or needs to be) I will only say that like all couples we have our good and bad days. But, I wouldn't want to be on this journey with anyone else and I love that he lets me be me and loves me for it! 

With my kids... I've always loved them so much, but it's a different love now,
I know how much I have to lose. My life, my heart, my everything. I sometimes fear that I might lose them and I couldn't handle it. This past weekend when B was so sick I just prayed while we sat in the ER and said "God please. She is just a baby, don't take her from me, I won't be able to come back from this one". Everyone comments on how strong I am, but something happening to her would have broken me. I really was scared with how sick she was and no matter how irrational I was in thinking she was going to die, I couldn't help but go there. Thank God she is okay! 



- Me - my relationship with myself goes through so many different emotions on a weekly sometimes daily basis. I think after the scariness of Bailey being so sick and not being able to get the image of her getting the catheter out of my head I realized I really need to see a therapist. It's so hard to admit you need help. I attend the babies gone too soon support group which is helpful, but I also need to process all the crap I have been through this year. I need to get to a point where I am not consumed with all the trauma. Most days I am good, but I just think talking to an objective person would be helpful. Yikes, can't believe I am sharing this with everyone, no one wants to be the person in therapy. Which is crazy because I refer the strongest people in the world to therapists everyday and I have many friends who have attended therapy, but it's hard and it makes me feel like something is wrong with me. Again. I do not think anyone who has utilized therapy is crazy. I'm just having a hard time admitting that I need it! Please don't judge me. Hopefully, I find someone I connect with that can help me be a better me! 

XOXO


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